thoughts on hot

The other day I got talking with a friend on what makes someone 'hot'. He (obviously a he-no offence guys) held that looks are the most important thing. But is it only looks that turns heads when someone walks into a bar? I say nonononononoooooo.

First of all the hot person needs to think they are hot. Not in a 'look at me I'm so sexy strike a pose vogue' kind of hot. They need to take their hotness for granted. And be focusing on things other than their looks. People who look like they are thinking about what they look like don't usually seem terribly approachable. Sometimes they look like total arseholes.

A person is hot if they are enjoying themselves. The misery guts in the corner will not turn heads. Maybe some gothic emo type might notice they are good looking, but whatever. A hot person oozes the feeling that life is good......or at least interesting.

A person is hot if they have their own unique style. Their own fabulous brand of me. So doesn't everyone have access to that? Surely everyone can be hot for a least one other person, no?

Anyway why do I care enough to sit and write a whole blog about this topic? Do I consider myself some kind of expert on 'hotness' as a result of my clubber/drama teacher combination from days of yore? Hmm. Do I feel the need to blabber my opinion about anything all over the net as a result of too many hours of talking with a baby per day? Definitely. This blog was born of a lack of going out for coffee or/and drinks...something I used to take for granted. Don't take going out for granted non-parents! Going out is so very sweet....

I think what I want to say is that I have started to realise that life is really short. Being with a baby all the time and watching him grow before my eyes has really brought that home recently. The times I have the most fun with him is when I am actually 100% there, not thinking about how I can steal a few minutes to read or get on facebook. And when I'm having fun, I like looking in the mirror. I don't see unplucked eyebrows and hideous hair. I just smile.